You’re watching T.V with your mother when a steamy kissing scene comes up with intense making out all over the screen and the T.V. remote is lying a little too far from your reach. How do you react? If it is short-lived kiss, you continue watching just as before. But if it’s one of the longer ones like the song “Aashiq Banaya Aapne” which keeps getting nastier each second, you’re faced with a dilemma. You can’t continue watching it for 5 long minutes without either of you getting uncomfortable and you don’t want to give it undue highlight by going out of your way to pick up the T.V. remote and changing the channel. What do you do? That right there is the – “Kissing Scene Dilemma”.
“Kissing Scene Dilemma” manifests itself in various forms with the following underlying structure – EITHER keep getting uncomfortable due to an on-going situation with your discomfort increasing with time, OR go a little out of your way/comfort zone to set things right but at the cost of giving the situation undue highlight/importance.
Mosquitoes buzzing by your ear at night, waking you from your sleep can be modeled into this dilemma because you are faced with the following two choices – You can either try to ignore them and go back to sleep or you can get out of bed & switch on the mosquito repellent (or maybe increase the fan speed a little). Now you don’t wanna give the mosquito the glory of having forced you into leaving your comfortable bed on a early December night, do you? And by getting off the bed, you’re acknowledging that mosquito’s importance which of-course is undue. What do you decide to do?
Yet another example – Your boyfriend is a little too flirty with the girls. You can continue pretending that it doesn’t bother you with your discomfort increasing with time, or confront him about the situation while giving it undue? importance or as he may put it – making an ‘issue’ out of it.
Awkward silences between a group of people can be thought of as an instance. Even driving your classmate home every single day. Or the scenario when at a party you’re more drinks down than you’re proud of and you can’t decide whether to sit* aside for an indefinite period trying to settle your stomach or to vomit (read as highlight) it out and get it over with. If you think about it, we are surrounded by examples of “Kissing Scene Dilemma”. 😉
*Always sit. Never lie down. Trust me on this, okay?